The truth is, we are all nearly always capable of achieving much, much more than we currently achieve, in pretty much all areas of our lives, whether as a teacher, an AI engineer, a chef, or a CEO â  we simply lack a different perspective, a different skill-set, a different take on what we can do, a different appreciation of our potentialÂ
We often lack perspective on our own potential because we feel we donât have the courage to shine a light into the blind-spots of our lives by reflecting on what we really want, and who can really help us do that. We do not Welcome Feedback  Â
Often this is because we are honestly a little bit scared of the outcome, believing that welcoming feedback in the most important areas of our lives will be like opening Pandoraâs box...
In fact, we often sacrifice our health, our relationships, even our sense of self to the ideas that culture has given us of what we 'should want'. The thing is, are we actually in control here, do we truly want this?
Whatâs more, so many of us live like this that most of us actually think this 'wanting things' is ânormalâ
There is an interesting theory, developed by French philosopher RenÊ Girard. The theory posits that human desire is fundamentally imitative. We don't want things because they are good or useful, but because someone who influences us, someone we admire, or envy, wants them. This means our desires are more often external, rather than internal. We are not in the driving seat, we are a passenger, being driven by other people's wants and desires. Wants and desires which may or may not be right for us
Wait a minute, that's a bit crazy when we look at it through this lens isn't it?
...Multiple studies show that playfulness in adults is not only extremely beneficial to our physical and mental health, it is also key for optimal functioning. Studies have found that play relieves stress, improves brain function, boosts creativity, increases and improves connections with others, and to top it all, increases our energy levels. These benefits extend beyond ourselves to our loved ones as we are playful in our relationships. Neuroscience supports the old theory that laughter really is the best medicine
Famously, even the multi award winning actress Meryl Streep is quoted as saying,
What is fascinating is that these âsuper successfulâ people are often falling for the myth that everyone else surrounding them is way more confident and composed than they themselves are. The Meryl Streep sentiment is playing on repeat in their mind
It's fascinating because we often don't realise that the reason you canât hear other peopleâs inner monologues of self-doubt isnât that they donât have them. Itâs because you only have access to your own mind, your own imposter syndrome playing repeat, minute by minute, hour by hour
As the UK organisation Action for Happiness points out, one of the biggest reasons many of us feel miserable is because we constantl...
So many of us are fed up of feeling overwhelmed. We are bored with our own catastrophising. We are drained by the lack of hope and optimism. We want to swap this feeling so often labelled as 'overwhelm' for a feeling that we can face any challenge that comes our way head on, roll with the punches and enjoy - even relish - the ride!
The truth is, for a lot of us, we can improve our lives dramatically by letting go of the rubbish that a lot of us carry around in our heads today about how life should be, without challenges or difficulties, and start to Show Up, roll with the punches and actually enjoy the ride of this wild thing we call life
We spend our entire lives in our minds, yet very few of us ensure they are a great place to be by carrying out a regul...
A 15 year old GCSE student on his way to one of our best Universities. He is smart, sociable and spirited, excelling at everything he puts his hand to, from sport, to his grades, to fronting the school band. Looking in from the outside it seems that his life is stretching before him full of hope and opportunityÂ
And yet. He is crippled by anxiety and shame. Anxiety and shame driven by perfectionism. Permanently on a high wire, of perfectionism. Desperately driven by an anxiety thinking that if he falls off, there is no world to welcome him. He does his schoolwork, he does his pull-ups, he does his push-ups, he checks his phone, hour by hour, minute by minute, ever fearful of the shame of not hitting his high performing, perfectionist targets
How can I explain to this smart, sociable and spirited 15 year old that striving for excellence is one thing. Striving to excel in his unique way, using his own combination of brilliant brain, inate sociability and fierce d...
A good starting point for how to open our minds to open our world is to start with understanding a bit about what is a 'growth mind-set'
The concept of a growth mind-set first appeared in 1988 as a theory relating to learning and education. It was cited as the reason why super smart kids can still fail, despite their actual capability. The central thought is that a childâs attitude towards taking on a challenge, instead of their innate ability, was the main ...
Honestly, I can't tell you how many of the seniors leaders we work with say this to us, I'd say 80% of senior leaders believe they are great at change, yet are also frustrated, believing most of the people in their business are sticking to their old ways, refusing to adapt and move forward. This is clearly a problem because in today's world, especially if you are a leader - change is the new normal - and businesses that can't adapt and move forward are often doomed
The trouble is, most of these senior leaders are the ones who 'don't get it' because it is actually them who are tending to focus on the wrong things. They proudly sacrifice their Sundays, swapping precious family time with preparing for the meeting. Choosing the sharpest data, the slickest visuals, the punchiest examples, soundbites from the CEO â about why change...
We can't wait to get to the weekend, to escape on vacation, even to finally retire so we can forget about the stress and anxiety so many of us feel in our everyday work life
Wouldnât it be great to ditch feeling trapped, stressed and overwhelmed by our work - for feeling as excited and curious about our work as we used to feel, when we were dreaming about âwhat we would beâ when we were grown ups
If you face a lot of change, a lot of pressure, a long to-do list, and ever challenging people situations at work, at home, in your whole life, there is a way back to a more child-like curiosity, a calm and more poised reality. The way back is about enjoying and seizing the opportunity of every bounce, even in todayâs working world ... so you swap your mind-set from trap to trampoline
Have you ever wondered how CEOs often bounce from one gig to an...
The thing is, staying stuck where we are, when it comes to the world of work, can often mean stuck like a sitting duck. Stuck with outdated skill-sets, mind-sets and behaviours. This is frankly, not a great idea if we want to be relaxed and fizzing with excitement about opportunities ahead of us in our future work life
What to do?
What we recommend is to futureproof yourself. If you futureproof something, you design or change it so that it will continue to be useful or successful in the future if the situation changes. Let's be clear, for many of us, our work situations change monthly, if not weekly. Frequent change is now our new normal
Futureproofing is about making sure youâre ready for what your work journey may have round the corner â this could be new technology, new processes, new ways...