For many of us, when we think of where we spend our lives â we tend to think about our homes and when we think about improving our lives â our thoughts often turn to improving our homes and our health
Ask the average person what they would do if they won the lottery and often buying a fabulous new home is the first thing on the list
In fact according to the 2020 Renovation Nation Report by money.co.uk - UK homeowners invested an average of £4,035 each on home improvements since the lockdown began in March 2020
It makes complete sense â as we spend more time in our homes, so we dream of well-designed spaces - Â a beautiful place to hang out, play and chill during uncertainty
Spending time in a good environment is good for us â somewhere safe, secure and comfortable with the right level of stimulus or entertainment is a good place to be
Hereâs the thing though⌠have you ever walked along a street of dream...
We find this shocking, and frankly heart-breakingly wasteful
Many of us create private, internal visons for who we want to be, how we want to live and what we want to achieve â at work, at home, in our whole life, yet choose, sometimes consciously but mostly not, to remain unseeing in situations where in order to achieve our vision. We could know, and should know, but donât know. Because we believe it makes us feel better not to know
And so our unique vision for what a great life would look like fades into ânormalâ, into âfineâ into âIâm good, thanksâ â and a weak smile. We know we could learn new skills at work, but donât. We know we could improve our communication skills to benefit all our relationships, especially those with our loved ones. But donât. We know to be happier, better people - we could let go of internal baggage. But donât. We know we could learn new skills in...
This is pretty much a regular scenario now in homes across the world ...
Overwhelm. The great resignation. We are leaving sour relationships, unfulfilling jobs, toxic work environments in our millions. Left, right and centre, over the last 18 months an overarching theme of overwhelm is leading us to reflect, reconsider, and re-evaluate our lives
We are picking different choices in an attempt to rid ourselves of this feeling of overwhelm â and often the choices we start with are the obvious ones â new job, new partner, new routine, (new laptop!)
What we often donât start with, when we feel so overwhelmed â is building our mental strength
Which is ironic really â because actually â when we start our new job, our new relationship, our new routine â wouldnât we want to start from a position of mental strength?
Because if we donât â guess what â in 6 months time, that feeling of overwhelm might just still be there...
...we increasingly understand that what makes us not only successful, but also happy in life - is having a great mind-set
The thing is â look around, from world-class athletes, to global influencers, to our own friends and family â what with enforced isolation, shutdowns, restricted access, home-schooling and business closures â even the most upbeat of us can fall into the depths of stress, anxiety, loneliness and deep uncertainty
Actually â it is possible â itâs possible for any of us to approach each day with energy and motivation, confident that whatever is thrown our way, we can - not just survive, but thrive
We donât just know this, we live it â during lockdown we created Progressfullâ˘, a company designed to unlock personal progress and professional potential
During lockdown I became healthier, durin...
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The hard work and dedication has paid off. We are so proud, so inspired, so motivated. We know we will now finally be able to implement our own creative ideas, we know we can now set our own challenging targets and get the stuff done, we know needs to get done. We know how to drive the growth, we know our teams and our business deserve. We know, we know, we know. Yes!  We finally get to prove it! Â
Our hearts and brains overflow with the potential we see around us, in our teams, our brand and in our own ability to make great things happen
Finally we get to do the things which other leaders before us, failed to get done
When the first few promotions come, we excitedly check the increase in our bank account. We 'accept' the invitations to the âimportant meetings,â previously out of our pay grade. We lean forward in our chairs, reli...
One of the key ideas behind Progressfull⢠is that we all have extraordinary potential, we all have capabilities beyond our wildest dreams. And with the right insights, frameworks and tools we can all unlock our infinite potential and enjoy living unique lives, filled with meaning, purpose and progress
We are also aware that, despite external so-called success, nearly all of us experience deep fears that 'we are not enough' at some point, or even most of our lives. Some examples of how this feeling can be disguised are; relentless ambition, jealousy, or a feeling of shame at not being lovable - this can often be triggered when we compare ourselves to others
It is for this reason that we have created a brand âProgressfullâ˘", rather than taking the approach of using one person's name ie âErin Example, or Sam Sample", which is the norm these days
We know that in reality, all the answers to the questions of how to progress and live a bett...
Never has the demand for us all to Show Up as the best version of ourselves been greater
Together we have the talent, we have the knowledge and we have the potential. We can discover new ways of doing things, we can develop new businesses and design new products, we can create positive change. And yet...
Why do so very many of us, at some point in our lives, suffer from the fear of not being good enough? Which means, we donât start, we donât try, we donât finish, we give up. We donât Show Up
For some of us, this so-called normal feeling of not being good enough only hits us on certain days, when nothing we do feels good enough. We kind of hate ourselves for a bit, pour ourselves a glass of wine or take it out on our loved ones, go to bed angry and wake up kind of ready for a new start the next dayÂ
For those people this feeling of ânot good enough-nessâ seems to pass and doesnât...
The relentless uncertainty, the daily "can we, can't we, shall we, shan't we" of mask-wearing, social meet-ups and staycations, has now writhed it's way into our morning coffee-catch ups and our message feeds. The snake of uncertainty brings with it small, sneaking, daily confrontations with tricky choices, the relentless drip, drip, drip of new decisions, draining our energy and distracting our focus
With every glimmer of fun and freedom, we now peer into the shadows, calculating the risks and assessing the new behaviours to adopt. To keep safe, to keep strong. We have swapped worrying about 'if our job has enough purpose' for 'will I still have a job' and 'how do I keep myself and my family safe'. The statistics collaborate with our instinctive refocus on the basics of survival - whether looking at the economy, the local area R number, or the 30% of Corona survivors who are now likely to suffer PTSD
You arenât alone - we are all aware of the increase in the number of people feeling anxious or stressed in todayâs world
In the UK, the office of National statistics â reports that over 19 million people record high levels of anxiety (Ref1). A recent Gallup poll (Ref2) showed that the majority of American adults, 60%, now experience stress and worry on any given day. This is an increase of 14 percentage points between 2019 and 2020. In fact, the levels of people feeling anxious or stressed has now reached such high levels, that it is often called a âplague of stressâ â threatening to impact the majority of our lives
No great surprise that the main causes of this increase in stress and worry are our concerns about our physical and financial health, the pressures of required social isolation during the pandemic and the chaos for parents balancing work and childcare from our homes
The thing is, when we feel anxious and stressed, knowing the re...
She is a 20 something law student in her final year at one of our best Universities. She is smart, sassy, and excels at everything she puts her hand to, from hockey to home-baking. Her life is stretching before her - full of hope and opportunityÂ
And yet. She is crippled by anxiety and shame. Anxiety and shame driven by perfectionism. Permanently on a high wire, of perfectionism. Desperately driven by an anxiety that if she falls off, there is no world to welcome her. Day by day, hour by hour, minute by minute, ever fearful of the shame of not hitting her high performing, perfectionist goals
How can I explain to this sparky, kind girl that striving for excellence is one thing. Striving to excel in her unique way, using her own combination of sassy brains, deep kindness and fierce determination. That will bring magic. Striving for full marks, to always be top of the class, to never make mistakes. That will bring madness. A madness driven by seeking to control the unc...