We find this shocking, and frankly heart-breakingly wasteful
Many of us create private, internal visons for who we want to be, how we want to live and what we want to achieve â at work, at home, in our whole life, yet choose, sometimes consciously but mostly not, to remain unseeing in situations where in order to achieve our vision. We could know, and should know, but donât know. Because we believe it makes us feel better not to know
And so our unique vision for what a great life would look like fades into ânormalâ, into âfineâ into âIâm good, thanksâ â and a weak smile. We know we could learn new skills at work, but donât. We know we could improve our communication skills to benefit all our relationships, especially those with our loved ones. But donât. We know to be happier, better people - we could let go of internal baggage. But donât. We know we could learn new skills in...
I donât know about you, but I am over being told how to live my life â look around and there is plenty of evidence that a lot of people are making poor life decisions right now â and yet the advice just keeps coming doesnât it?
The truth is â in todayâs world â itâs quite hard to separate out what we really truly want to do with our life â from what society or our peers, our friends and family - even podcasts - think we should do with our life!
What this means is that we often feel buffeted about by life, we make decisions based on other peopleâs ideas of what success looks like and 5 years later, wonder why we donât feel quite as fabulous as we thought we might, given everything we have achievedÂ
Have you ever heard of  âCongruenceâ â I mean, outside of the maths class? M...
Good news eh? As adults we can get so bogged down in how âstressedâ or âbusyâ we are - for most of us, the last thing on our minds is how we can play more!
The thing is, we know itâs important for kids to play, but it is actually even more important for adults. This is because, often one of the reasons we are so anxious and wound up in the first place, is because we get stuck in our ways - as George Bernard Shaw famously said,
While our current beliefs, behaviours and mind-sets may be useful in some ways, they are certainly comforting and familiar - they often stop us from growing, adapting and unlocking our potential. Sadly, they can be the main cause of a lot of our anxiety, lack of energy and our feeling of being stuck and wonky
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...we increasingly understand that what makes us not only successful, but also happy in life - is having a great mind-set
The thing is â look around, from world-class athletes, to global influencers, to our own friends and family â what with enforced isolation, shutdowns, restricted access, home-schooling and business closures â even the most upbeat of us can fall into the depths of stress, anxiety, loneliness and deep uncertainty
Actually â it is possible â itâs possible for any of us to approach each day with energy and motivation, confident that whatever is thrown our way, we can - not just survive, but thrive
We donât just know this, we live it â during lockdown we created Progressfullâ˘, a company designed to unlock personal progress and professional potential
During lockdown I became healthier, durin...
One of the key ideas behind Progressfull⢠is that we all have extraordinary potential, we all have capabilities beyond our wildest dreams. And with the right insights, frameworks and tools we can all unlock our infinite potential and enjoy living unique lives, filled with meaning, purpose and progress
We are also aware that, despite external so-called success, nearly all of us experience deep fears that 'we are not enough' at some point, or even most of our lives. Some examples of how this feeling can be disguised are; relentless ambition, jealousy, or a feeling of shame at not being lovable - this can often be triggered when we compare ourselves to others
It is for this reason that we have created a brand âProgressfullâ˘", rather than taking the approach of using one person's name ie âErin Example, or Sam Sample", which is the norm these days
We know that in reality, all the answers to the questions of how to progress and live a bett...
and yet if we are honest, how many of us have thought about what that actually means
Today this seems to mean a combination of being woke â the definition of woke, as stated by Merriam-Webster being, âAware of and actively attentive to important facts and issues, especially issues of racial and social injusticeâ - and living our best lives, which according to social media roughly translates as being present, travelling the world, landing a dream job and being physically and mentally fit and strong - sounds good to me!
Which makes sense â sort of. Most of us now know, through various pieces of research shared on social media, news articles and blog posts, that success today is not just about the job, the car, the house and the holiday destination. We are rightly ang...
She is a 20 something law student in her final year at one of our best Universities. She is smart, sassy, and excels at everything she puts her hand to, from hockey to home-baking. Her life is stretching before her - full of hope and opportunityÂ
And yet. She is crippled by anxiety and shame. Anxiety and shame driven by perfectionism. Permanently on a high wire, of perfectionism. Desperately driven by an anxiety that if she falls off, there is no world to welcome her. Day by day, hour by hour, minute by minute, ever fearful of the shame of not hitting her high performing, perfectionist goals
How can I explain to this sparky, kind girl that striving for excellence is one thing. Striving to excel in her unique way, using her own combination of sassy brains, deep kindness and fierce determination. That will bring magic. Striving for full marks, to always be top of the class, to never make mistakes. That will bring madness. A madness driven by seeking to control the unc...
Look around and we can see that more and more âsuccessful peopleâ feel wonky
This is despite achieving killer job titles, 1000s of followers and spending our hard-earned free-time and cash on mimicking the lifestyles of so-called successful people living their best lives; fantastic careers, up-to-date wardrobes, the best "self-care routines" and gym memberships and our insta-worthy homes and holidays
What's more - when we look at the lives of the so-called successful people who influence and inspire us to do what we do, wear what we wear, spend what we spend - whether on social media or at work - the statistics show that, in truth, these people might also not have their lives quite as worked out as they may appear
Statistics show that CEOâs may be at twice the risk of developing depression than the rest of the population. That 49% of Start-Up entrepreneurs hav...