We often think that turning right is the only way to turn, because everyone else is turning that way. The thing is, sometimes when things don’t go right, it’s because they don’t feel right and actually, the reason they don’t feel right is because deep down, we don’t really want to do them because these are actions which are not in line with our own personal values
Our friends and family, our school teachers, even podcasters and influencers on social media. How sad is that? In truth, quite a lot of us are sleepwalking through our own lives, being someone other people want us to be
I don’t know about you, but I am over being told how to live my life – look around and there is plenty of evidence that a lot of people are making poor life decisions right now – and yet the advice just keeps coming doesn’t it?
What this means is that we often feel buffeted about by life, we make decisions based on other people’s ideas of what seems right to them, and 5 years later, wonder why we don’t feel quite as fabulous as we thought we might, given everything we have achieved
Have you ever heard of ‘Congruence’ – I mean, outside of the maths class? Me neither, I had a vague idea, but I hadn’t really a clue what it meant…
Congruence is about…
When we talk about world, we talk about the internal world of our thoughts, feelings, behaviour, mind-sets and beliefs - and how that belief is shown externally, how that mind-set is demonstrated externally, how that behaviour shows up externally, and how those feelings connect externally - to put it a different way - it is a life lived in harmony
It doesn't matter how much success we have externally, if it is not aligned with who we really are and who we really want to be, we don’t feel truly content – so we keep reaching for another goal, another achievement, another milestone, we sacrifice and strive and finally achieve that and… that feels empty too… so we reach for another – honestly we are like children reaching for another marshmallow!
We are purposeful, mindful – our life is harmonious, we are consistently learning and stretching ourselves – frankly, life is good
When we are congruent we:
We love this quote from Dolly Parton which sums up what we mean brilliantly,
So to help people find out who they are and do it on purpose - we created the Upskill (our name for a course/masterclass) ‘Owning Congruence’ - to equip and empower you to Own Congruence
Research from psychology, neuroscience, philosophy, and spirituality have been mined and sifted to create the diamonds that comprise the content in Owning Congruence
What we are sharing are the most useful and most practical tips and tools for you to live a life of harmony, purposeful rather purposeless, mindful rather than mindless - reconnecting with your true self - aligned and in accord between your inner and outer worlds (the things you believe in and the way you behave, the actions you take)
And this is the real magic we all need in today’s uncertain world – as Stephen Covey said,
This is truly being in control, this is being in the driving seat of our own life, enabling you to take the right turn for you – whether that is turning left or right – you choose on your terms - this is the magic!
If you would like to discover more about how you can Own Congruence we have an Upskill (our name for a course/masterclass) to help you do just that – you can learn more about it here