True & real success ...

Ah, success ... the dream ...

So we have a question for you, do you make major life decisions based on other people’s ideas of what success looks like?

And if you do, do you then, years later, wonder why you don’t feel quite as fabulous as you thought you might, given all the 'success' you have achieved? 

The truth is – in today’s world – it’s often hard to separate out what we really truly want to do with our life – from what society or our peers, podcasts – or even well intentioned friends and family – think we should do with our life

Here's something to share with you which might help

Have you ever heard of  ‘Congruence’?

Congruence is about…

1. the quality or state of agreeing, coinciding, corresponding
2. a correspondence in physical structure or thought; harmony
3. compatibility, accord, chime, consistency

The key things to take hold of about congruence are – being in harmony, in accord with / agreeing with - the harmony, accord, agreement is with our internal and external world

When we talk about world, we talk about the internal world of our thoughts, feelings, behaviour, mind-sets and beliefs – and how that belief is shown externally, how that mind-set is demonstrated externally, how that behaviour shows up externally, how those feelings connect externally –  to put it a different way –  it is a life lived in harmony

So we start with a fundamental truth - true and real success is living a life in harmony - ensuring alignment and accord between our inner and outer worlds

It doesn't matter how much success we have externally, if it is not aligned with who we really are and who we really want to be, we don’t feel truly content – so we keep reaching for another goal, another achievement, another milestone, we sacrifice and strive and finally achieve that and… that feels empty too… so we reach for another – honestly we are like children reaching for another marshmallow!

The answer – the game-changer – is to own congruence. When we are congruent we live a life of harmony – we feel connected to our truest self

We are purposeful, mindful – our life is harmonious, we are consistently learning and stretching ourselves – frankly – life is good

Owning Congruence is about living your life in accordance with your beliefs and values, day by day, moment by moment, being in the driving seat of your own life

When we are congruent we:

1. Make decisions faster – independently of other people
2. We have higher energy and motivation
3. We feel calm and confident that we are approaching life with integrity
4. We find life frictionless – even the really tough bits are somehow easier because we have a clearer sense of our own self
5. We feel in control of our own life – irrespective of uncertainty around us

We love this quote from Dolly Parton which sums up what we mean brilliantly,

"Find out who you are and do it on purpose"

So to help people find out who they are and do it on purpose –  we created the Upskill (our name for a course/masterclass) ‘Owning Congruence’ – to equip and empower you to Own Congruence

Research from psychology, neuroscience, philosophy, and spirituality have been mined and sifted to create the diamonds that comprise the content in Owning Congruence

What we are sharing are the most useful and most practical tips and tools for you to live a life of harmony, purposeful rather purposeless, mindful rather than mindless – reconnecting with your true self – aligned and in accord between your inner and outer worlds (the things you believe in and the way you behave, the actions you take) 

We will equip and enable you to consistently and purposefully, Own Congruence – enabling you to lean in and let go, to change, adapt and grow – reconnecting with your truest self

And this is the real gamechanger we all need – as we like to say ...

"True and real success is being truly and really yourself"

This is living a life of congruence, reconnecting with your truest self –  living life on your own terms

You can discover more about how you can Own Congruence here